When in Doubt, Log Out: How Social Media Can Wreck Your Divorce Case
Divorce is emotional. It’s messy. And in the age of oversharing, it’s tempting to vent your frustrations with a well-crafted Instagram caption or a spicy Facebook post. But here’s the truth every family law attorney wishes more people knew: what you post online can absolutely be used against you in court, and your posts can influence the decisions a judge may make in your case.
At Sodoma Law, we provide not just passionate legal advocacy, but also the tools and insight families need to protect themselves in the middle of litigation. One of the biggest modern pitfalls in divorce: social media.
Screenshots Don’t Lie
Even if your account is private, posts can—and often do—get shared, screenshotted, and submitted as evidence in court. We’ve seen it all:
- A parent who claimed they couldn’t afford child support—but posted photos of their new luxury car.
- Someone seeking custody—while their TikTok showed them partying with the kids at home.
- An ex complaining about their co-parent—who then had those same words used to question their willingness to foster a healthy relationship.
In family law, your credibility is everything. Don’t let one impulsive post cast doubt on your judgment.
Your Timeline is Not a Legal Strategy
We get it. You’re hurt. You’re angry. You want to set the record straight. But social media is not your diary, and it’s definitely not the place to air out the details of your case. Publicly bashing your ex can undermine negotiations, escalate tensions, and negatively affect custody determinations—especially if the children see it or are discussed directly.
Even if your children are little, they will grow up—and chances are, they’re better at using the internet than you are. They can learn how to access those posts, and so can their friends.
New Love, New Trouble?
It’s also common to wonder: Can I post about my new relationship before my divorce is final? The answer? Technically yes. But should you? Maybe not.
Even if the relationship began after separation and is legally acceptable, flaunting a new romance can create unnecessary conflict, enflame emotions, and increase your legal fees. In some cases, it may even impact alimony or be used to suggest marital misconduct. It’s not worth the risk.
You should also use your best judgment in introducing new dating partners to your children.
When in Doubt, Log Out
That’s our golden rule. “When in doubt, log out.” If you’re unsure whether something is safe to post, don’t. Better yet—run it by your attorney first. During divorce or custody litigation, treat every post like a potential courtroom exhibit.
What To Do Instead:
- Keep communication with your ex respectful and limited to necessary topics (like parenting).
- Document concerns privately.
- Seek support from a therapist, not your followers.
- Let your legal team fight your battles—not your comment section.
Need Guidance?
At Sodoma Law, we’re more than just your lawyers—we’re your advocates, strategists, and voice of reason when emotions run high. We’re here to help you protect your future.
